Discover Your Future

When my boys were little, I danced the juggle jig.  I had several roles during that time, but my primary responsibilities were being their lead caregiver while also managing a market research business.  So, while I was the chief cook and bottlewasher at home, I was also winning business, retaining clients & finding new ones, developing and managing research projects in NZ and offshore, uncovering game changing insights and crafting great presentations.  I hired staff and worked with some incredible colleagues who kept me real. 

I was lucky enough to have access to amazing childcare providers depending on the ages of the boys and what they were ready for - a couple of wonderful part time nanny’s and the local kindergarten was a godsend.  But still, I worked from cafes, libraries and even my car sometimes because my office was in my home, and I couldn’t always work from home with toddlers and preschoolers racing around the place.  I worked during sleep time and often after the dinner/bath/story/bed time hour.

I was a pretty good dancer of the juggle jig during this time.  It was fun, it was intense, it was invigorating on good days, exhausting on others. 

And then my youngest boy went off to school and my jig lost its mojo.  I just couldn’t find the drive to notch things up business-wise now that I finally had the time and space to properly focus on it.

And that fascinated me. 

Why did my business and career not feel right anymore and what on earth was I going to do about it?

We all come to crossroads in our lives from time to time.  Sometimes it’s because something big happens to you like an illness or a divorce, the death of someone close to you, or perhaps a global pandemic shakes you to the core. Or it may be due to something internal, a life stage transition like kids heading off to school, kids leaving home or perhaps a realization like mine that the juggle jig I had danced being a business owner and a full-time mum had completely worn me out and highlighted that I needed a change. 

Whatever it is that creates the need for change in any aspect of your life, there is a simple process you can follow to discover which direction you now want to head and to begin walking down that path.

Martha Beck calls this stage of the change cycle Dreaming and Scheming, and I love taking people on this journey of discovery.

Imagine Your Possibilities

The mantra for the dreaming and scheming phase of the change cycle is ‘there are no rules and that’s ok’.  You have permission to go big, go wide, go long. As they say, dreams are free & if you can’t dream it, you can’t create it.  The coaching tools we use in this phase are designed to access your imagination and your subconscious.  They’re playful, they’re fun, they’re…well dreamy. But they work.  Andrew Huberman believes the Ideal Day tool, where you get to imagine your own perfect day out there in the future, from the moment you wake to the moment you go to sleep at night, as one of the most powerful tools he’s ever used (https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/huberman-lab/id1545953110?i=1000664344988). 

A client of mine described the impact of these tools - which allow you to dream and see a different future - as profound & life altering. Once she’d imagined where she was heading, she could really start thrashing out ideas of how to bring that future to life.  In her words “once you see it, you just can’t unsee it”

Dreaming and Scheming helped me become a Martha Beck certified Wayfinder life coach and create Wonder, my Possibilities Life Coaching Business. It helped my husband and I find a new home and secondary school for our boys after looking for over 3 years while we outgrew our little villa (one of my ‘little’ boys grew to be 6 feet tall in that time)! 

Dreaming and scheming has helped my clients find new jobs that fire them up, to create new business streams incorporating existing expertise and skills with new passions.  Dreaming has uncovered desires to live in new homes or cities (and a new country for one), it’s helped others identify where their basic needs are not being meet and to then find new ways to get them met, and for others its helped them identify different ways to live within their family dynamic.

If you’re going through a transition at the moment and find yourself standing at a crossroad feeling unsure which path you should take, let's chat. Get started by sending me an email bridget@iwonder.co or book at free 30 minute strategy session to discuss further https://calendly.com/iwonder_bridget/30minstrategycall?month=2024-12.

A little dreaming might be just what you need. 

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